Lost your password? Please enter your email address. You will receive a link and will create a new password via email. Register to become part of this blog, when you register you can ask questions and also be able to comment on questions from other. Together, we will make this work. Nigerian men treat their wives as second in command, they expect their women to be there for them, answer when they call and they always want to make the final decision.
It will be essential for the individual to familiarize themselves with the surroundings and identify the key cities in Nigeria such as Lagos, Abuja, Port Harcourt or Benin City in order to set up a foundation for networking.
There are a number of disadvantages of using social media to get into a relationship but, it is by far the fastest and easiest method. Meanwhile, Nigeria is a beautiful country rich in West African culture and traditions.
A direct visit by the lady will expose her to limitless opportunities and allow her to choose a suitable companion. There are several reputable restaurants and bars within the country that offer good opportunities for individuals to search for a suitable Nigerian man.
Despite the foregoing, there are a number of disadvantages when dating Nigerian men. Nigerian men are known for being very smart and charming and can thus cheat their way around anything just to get you.
If not, you will soon find yourself being with a married guy who you thought was single. These men are also smooth talkers and can thus pass their way through any tough fix.
Things To Know Before Dating African Men. Dating African men is one of the sweetest things a lady could ever experience in her life time. I have few friends from different parts of the world, majority of them are now dating African men, after I hooked them up with the best men Africa can offer. Jan 31, For those who wish to know, dating a Nigerian (man or woman) is quite an experience. This is coming from all the inter woven angles such as the food, music, languages etc. You also get to see life from the life of a Nigerian (which is clearly different I can assure you).
Nigerian culture can, however, be limiting especially to foreigners aiming to get married there; you will go through a lot of trouble getting accepted as part of the community. Some men like to get women from their tribes and this is done traditionally meaning that you will have to work hard to impress the elders. A typical Nigerian man always wants his woman girlfriend or wife to stand out from the rest.
He would want his friends to see that his hard earned money is being channeled into the right source. He may not have the best of clothes, shoes or cars but where his woman and kids are concerned, he would stop at nothing to give them the best. In a particular state in the Eastern part of the country, people have gatherings and then they show off their beautiful wives or girlfriends to see who looks more beautiful and better taken care of. That is the extent Nigerian men can go to just to give them the best.
Despite having a lot of good sides, dating a Nigerian man also has its own fair share of troubles. In fact, it has quite a number of disadvantages. They are not perfect after all right?
The only thing is to decide within you to accept them with their baggages and all. You will have to decide if you can deal with their own type of issues.
If you did not know this, know it now that Nigerian men have the gift of the garb. They can talk their way out of literally any situation. If you think you have caught him in a wrongdoing, you just wait till he starts giving you reasons why he did what he did.
By the time he is done, you will begin to question if he was actually wrong or if it was you that was actually wrong.
Jul 26, Yes an American can date a Nigerian but there are some things to know Dating a West African man is not exactly rocket science, however if you weren't raised in a West African home, it could as well be. It's easier to pick up the role that women p. if you are dating a Nigerian man you must expect many things, in the culture of the Nigerians they always love to dominate their partner which means you should e somebody that is very patient, they always want to show that they are the Husband which means you have to be humble another thing you should expect is that they are easily carried away with love which means you need to hold unto him tightly . Despite the foregoing, there are a number of disadvantages when dating Nigerian men. Nigerian men are known for being very smart and charming and can thus cheat their way around anything just to get you. When dating one of such, you should be very careful and pay a lot of attention to ensure they don't cheat on you. If not, you will soon find yourself being with a married guy who you thought Author: Chuka Udeze.
He may confuse you so much with a lot of stories that at the end of the day, you will end up saying sorry to him and the funny thing is that you will not even know why you are apologizing. Because they are smooth talkers, it means they lie a lot too. They have perfected the skill to the extent that they can lie with a straight face. This is why it is very easy for them to conceal things such as unfaithfulness because you will never catch them.
And even if you do, the way they will beg and soothe you will surely make you want to give them a second chance. This has to be like top on the list of the disadvantages of being with them. Yes most definitely. They are so ambitious to the extent that they can do practically anything to make money to fulfill their dreams.
Some men may rob, steal, kill etc just to make money. With this state of mind, they are highly usaporiviafrancigena.comedictable and can do anything. There has been reported instances where this state of mind drove them to crime and some of them paid with their lives. All in all, you have to be very careful when dating a Nigerian man.
You must ensure first that you actually know what he does for a living. Some Nigerian men are into a lot of shady deals while camouflaging it under the guise of legitimacy such that you will need a discerning eye to truly find out. Therefore give it some time.
Aug 20, THINGS TO KNOW BEFORE DATING A NIGERIAN MAN???? #PHILIPPINES #TIPS #NIGERIAN #Agbor #Pinay #Couple #9JA. The 14 Things I Learned Dating a Nigerian Man - Duration: MarshaunO 96, Apr 02, He is a proud, strong, sexy, African man, and I do not know if it is true of all Nigerian men, but he is the most positive person I have ever met in my life. In the 2 years I have known him, I have ever heard him say a negative word about anyone, and no matter what we face, he always offers encouraging words and expects a positive outcome. Sep 16, Dating Nigerian Men. Here is where it goes wrong most of the times most white women never learn how to deal with Nigerian men in relationship, so they keep getting it wrong. Dating a Nigerian guy, white women often find it difficult to cope, they think we are domineering and demanding.
Get to know him for a good number of time. Do not just settle for word of mouth or what his friends tell you they are most probably doing the same thing.
Confirm by yourself before saying yes to him. This is so especially when they are dealing with their fellow businessmen. Due to their very ambitious spirit, they can do virtually anything to succeed in business regardless of who gets hurt. Some of them go into rituals and human sacrifice, contraband goods, selling fake drugs, advanced fee fraud popularly known as armed robbery etc.
Most times, the people involved in this will also have a business doing this time a legitimate one in order to confuse people.
I am AA, well sort of. My dad is caribbean, born here, and my mom is AA. I was born here as well. I think there are a ton of good AA men out there, but they are sometimes hard to come by depending on your situtation. Man, how in the world did I get so lucky? This guy is amazing.
African American women, stop settling, and think outside the box! You might find a Naija prince, I did!! Nice article. I have never been so passionate about any man in my life, in spite of being in a few long-term relationships. He has me smitten with his sexy, wonderful self.
He is so sweet and caring and takes such good care of me. We have had our ups and downs but have managed to work through them.
He is my African king and I am his lady, his queen. Nigerian men are lionsthey are strong willed, providers, and do not tolerate disrespectif you are not comfortable with toning it down and allowing him to have control, at least fake it until you make it. Very nice artilce. I was reading comments from a different forum that was focusing on all the negative things about Nigerian men. I visited this article after having a terrible experience with a Nigerian man.
What amazed me is that the Nigerian women except my sister-in-law felt as if I got what I deserved.
They were not being truthful with me. They pretended that their men were very good to them and never cheated on them. They made it appear like the problem was with me and not him. It makes me feel better to know that you are honest about Nigerian men. My sister-in-law for 23 years is also a very honest person about the men of her culture.
She is very blessed to have a good Southern boy like my big brother. He cherish her and take GOOD care of her and their children. My igbo man! I do anything for him! I like thismy boyfriend is so dam sexy! We both najia but I was born here. I pray so much that everything works out rightI am a non Nigerian woman but i try to understand their culture so i probably would understand him alot better. Trying my best to keep thinking positive. As for the author hymm. He is Bold, brash, infuriating, funny, crafty, big-hearted, double-dealing, sexy, crazy, loving.
The things that makes me so mad and upset are the same things that I love about him. I am praying and working daily to be all that he needs. I love this man i want to learn more about him and how to please him. Thank you for writing this article. The article is sooo true. They make good love to you, they treat like royalty, expecially the Gambia. However, they love women, but american men do too, but with this being said, they make your juice box, JUICY!
I know how to make him bark and sneeze at the same time. Just thinking about him, make me want to do myself. I am a south african Xhosa woman and i am dating a nigerian Igbo man who is 10 years older than me. He is very youthful though. He is loving and kind. I am enjoying my time with him. He assists me with household chores when he has time and cooks for me when i am tired.
He is hardworking, funny, loving, attentive and romantic. All i can say is that he was raised well by his parents. And i cant wait to go to Naija one day! Love is not about ethnicity, colour or creed. I met your nigerian man on face book.
Did he tell you that he had 3 children back in Nigeria? Did you know he was on facebook? Do you know that he tells people that he is not married? Are you on facebook? You should join and you will see the faces of his children.
If you want to know if he is genuine, bring his picture to Google search image and it will give you searches for his pic.
My nigerian husband is hardworking, loving and proud.
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I am a black women from another part of the world. We are always learning different ways to love each other as equals.
I dont accept or indulge in stereotypying any brothers. Nigerian men have so many good qualities they outweigh any negativities. Evry thing that is said in theb article is so true. Im a South african and been with a nigerian brother for 3years and ive been happy ever since.
I love them. I have been chatting with a man in Nigeria that says he is a white man working there we all feel he is trying to scam me.
But i have still fallen for him. You are right about his charms but he lacks honesty It makes me said that i can tell him color doesnt matter to me but he still says he is white.
I have spoken to him on the phone and well he is not a white Englishman Oh well i have not given up hope that he will be true with me. Very good artical. I understand him a bit more. I think we should not really generalize. This article gives me hope and has brighted my morning. He possesses all the attributes mentioned above. I went through his cell phone in his face.
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Devastation is all I. I love all men and WE as humans all have flaws. However, I love myself enough to know that regardless of all the wonderful attributes this guy possessed, his reckless actions could potentially become hazardous to my health. In my opinion, it is his behavior that makes him a gentlemennot his social standing in life. This makes him a true gentleman in the purest sense.
His thoughts and actions are based on principles. However, he understands the need to show emotions and that certain things in life are inevitable. As a white woman in the US, I enjoyed the article so much - it is a true account.
My ex-husband was Yoruba and today we are still close, but not married. After over 20 years of not dating Nigerian men, I now find myself hopelessly attracted to an Igbo man half my age, knowing this connection will likely end in heartache.
So, I am now looking to re-connect with the men of my spiritual homeland who are closer to my own age. Highly Generalized Question: Can Nigerian women accept a white woman without malice? This write up is so true that i hav to print it and give it to my girlfriend to read. Trust it will strengthen our relationship more and cause less friction. Thanks girl. Hi my Dears, i am also now in relation with nigerian Man, sometimes i must wondering so different but also so loveley i swear.
But i swear by god all things i read is true. I really love him so much he is trustful, charming and full of love what i want to need more. He is my true love and i hope that is forever. My husband is Igbo. I mean not a big lie, like cheating but little things that irritate the hell out of me. Very informative article. Thanks for the information. I am a Malaysian Chinese. I used to think that my Yoruba fiancee was fighting when he was speaking amongst his brothers but I discovered that the tone comes with the gentlest heart.
Takes getting used to but I thank God that we have been brought together. Apart from that I live in Nigeria so I might not be able to give an accurate comparison. And I dont think images portayed on Tv or films is a true depiction of an African American man.
Hi Bolanle, let me spark a topic for discussion from your article, and your notion will be appreciated! What do you think? I m too! Let hear your unbiased write up about this! I am confused I must say, and I know enough to know that if I am confused, I need to be still. I would love to get to know a Nigerian male. Very interesting write up. I am speechless becuse every damn paragraph is my yoruba fiance. You forgot to add that Nigerian men are the only ones bold enough to flicker out their hoses and urinate anywhere outside other than the bathroom.
I used to blame the fact that we had no public bathrooms until I visited other African countries without these facillities-they are all decent enough to hold it. I came across a taxi driver wetting my doorstep area and sure enough-it was my Naija bros. I am an African American woman and has never dated a Nigerian Man until recently. His kindness and strength has forced an uncontrollable urge to think about him constantly.