Cuddling post-sex should be reserved only for someone you actually have a commitment with, not for hookups. Most people just want to enjoy the last strains of ecstasy in silence; some would even turn their backs on you afterwards. If you really want to at least talk to this person for a good few minutes, then steer the conversation away from personal stuff. Like feelings. Or having kids. No, just no. Smoke, browse through Facebook, check Twitter, or do other things to pass the time, then get up, take a shower, and leave.
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Have something to add? Jump to the comments. Think: Were you feeling great about your decisionuntil your friend made a comment?
Was it safe and respectful, but you feel like you broke the "rules" of your parents or your religion? The truth is, feeling "off" in the aftermath of a make-out sesh should NOT be ignored.
Why Men Stop Talking with You After Sex
You just shared something SO insanely intimate with someone, and now your head is running around in this hyper-aware state. It's like you're waiting for that person to fail you! Wow, he's the only person who knows about that birthmark on my butt.
And shouldn't he have texted me, like, a million times already? Or does it just feel weird? But before you put this on them, reflect back on yourself for a sec: What do I want out of this arrangement?
Am I getting it? Have I been honest about my feelings to myself AND to this other person?
Sadly, there's no one foolproof way to proceed from here, but just raising these Qs can help to stop the spiraling. Plus, now you've pushed yourself to tap into your true feelings.
Jul 09, How to Stay Friends After Hooking Up. Whether you're friends and then hook up or hook up and then become friends afterward, being friends with someone you've seen naked generally isn't easy. That said, it's not impossible. Here are some tips on how to remain friends with someone you've hooked . Nov 30, After sex, cuddle and bask in the afterglow. Talk. When your heartbeat has returned to resting and you're both getting sleepy, say something like, "I had a wonderful time with you. There aren't any rules that say you're not allowed to talk during a hookup. Go ahead and talk to him. Find out what he likes to do when he's not in between the sheets with you. He'll never see you as more than a hookup if you never talk to him. Get him talking and build a friendship. Before you know it, he'll want a relationship.
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Don't allow that culture of shame [to] impact your behavior after a hookup happens." Put that scarlet letter away! We can assure you, the next time you cross paths in the elevator it won't be as bad as you think. 5. The Frat Bro Hook-up. The scenario: You go to a big Greek school where frat parties are the places to be come Friday night. Jun 13, Not launching the "FYI, not looking for anything serious" talk after sex. One, if we're hooking up regularly, catching feelings is the small risk taken by both parties, and no amount of. Before deciding what exactly to text a guy after a hookup, decide what you want from him. You don't want to say you would love to see him again if you plan on ghosting him next week. And you don't want to be too casual if you want to see him on a more regular basis.
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Nov 07, Keep it light and breezy. If you're just looking for another hookup, then don't be afraid to take the lead. 9. Damn homie where'd you learn to do all that? Yo, I'm not gonna lie Author: Rachel Shatto. Most people prefer zero communication right after a hookup, unless they're really interested in you. Just like cuddling and talking post-sex, a message isn't really necessary in this case. Don't initiate or entertain a lengthy conversation replaying your sack session.
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