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You only need to meet one person. In these swipe happy times, you have no excuse not to date-and date a lot. One guy. Everyone hates it just as much as you do. Start a conversation about dating with any of your single or coupled up friends and they will groan in response. Can it really be that bad if everyone feels the exact same way?

If single guys want a date, they have to wade into the online dating pool and get it. Usually that means sending out dozens of messages only to get a paltry number of responses. No explanation. Just an empty inbox. Dating sucks. Online dating sucks. If you ask me, we should bring back betrothals at birth. Until then, however, we modern daters have to deal with the following 11 sucky things. Some guys have a way with the ladies. Some guys have cute kittens.

Or maybe your soulmate is a dog person, what then? Dating websites are a platform designed to make it easier to find a date - but you still have to, you know, do stuff and be good at it. Advanced search features can trick singles into believing they can order whatever they want and find their perfect match with a click. Dating websites have a wide range of singles, but some online daters limit themselves to only a particular section and hurt their chances.

Do you want a site for cat lovers? For nerds? For hookups? Singles can choose from over 8, dating sitesand not all of them are winners.

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Dating sites can give singles too many options. Even after you pick your favorite dating site, you have still more choices to make as you browse through an ever-growing crowd of profiles to find the one for you. At bars and clubs, you can see your competition; you can count how many other guys are in the room and weigh your odds of success.

Some guys struggle to make themselves stand out from the crowd, and they lose their confidence with every dead-end date or ghosted convo.

After reading many similar likes, dislikes, and bios, people start to blend together. Maybe the conversation feels strained.

Not everyone does words very goodly. Unless your profile pic is extremely hot. Then you might have some leeway. You can just not respond. You take all this time to find the right person, craft a personal message, and then you wait. And wait. And wait some more. Dating websites take a lot of time, from filling out your profile to crafting a flirtatious message. Sending more messages gives you more chances to get a response, but that takes more time.

Last of all, some dating sites attract scammers who are looking to target emotionally vulnerable singles online. More than 21, romance scam complaints were filed with the FBI in alone.

DATING ADVICE: Why guys have it harder and what you can do about it (Dating advice for guys)

Some singles tell lies to get dates. There are some truly great people on dating websites, but there are trolls and creeps, too. There are practical things you can do to become more appealing online and up your success rate on dating websites.

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Not only is this the longest-running dating site founded inbut it has a long history of success and has inspired more relationships and marriages than any of its competitors. Zoosk members exchange over 3 million messages a day on the platform, and such a flirtatious atmosphere can be a breath of fresh air. As a quality-driven dating site, EliteSingles places heavy emphasis on intelligence, career, and success when matching singles.

These popular dating websites can help you escape the suckage and actually find someone worth talking to. My relationship, lifestyle, and business advice still applies though.

In China I literally have more matches, and girls messaging me first, then I could possibly date. Everything else about living in China sucks, but this almost makes it all worth it. That being said, your books are worth every single cent, and like you said in your post even going slightly off can make things much harder.

So I reviewed that chapter in the online dating book and made some slight adjustments and suddenly that problem disappeared. This severely impedes finding hot young things who live close by.

Yes there are fat hogs on it. I live in California. I can see where geographically you can be fucked on that part even if they had a georphical search. Which apps etc are you using in China. I just canceled all of my dating site pro subscriptions and signed up at seeking arrangement. Most of the girls i chat with want money for sex on the first day, or hope that im a guy who will pay them to chat with me.

I met up with one chick but she was fat and ugly. I wouldnt touch her. She screamed at me in public for wasting her time so i handed her some cash and left. As many of you recommend Instagram, let me share that this is my playground, too. I have invested in an optimal profile with LOTS of professional pictures, high quality photo with my 16 Mpixel camera, shirtless 6-pack pics and still I get 1 date out of openers I send to my followers.

About the AS I know BD suggests no kids on a first date etc, but I am really in no mood to follow a 2-dates system, since I just want to get laid and most girls come out to be 6s and 7s in real life to spend any more time on them, before I make a move. Unfortunately online dating in not so popular in my country, so I am stuck with Insta. Tinder, the most popular app here, does not work for me anymore and - that used to give results is now super expensive and useless.

The Market is Saturated now. Now am I saying stop online dating? It needs to be attacked on Bumble. The Free days maybe numbered. Sometimes it does require a tad buying drinks and such. Apparently Fetlife is trying to obfuscate the fact that it has so few members in most places outside of the hotspots like CTV is lucky to live in.

I have always believed that women, decent looking and up, have it invariably easier in one area of life - getting dates with men they find attractive. This is extremely true with online dating. With men it is like a job interview or being under cross examination. Say or do one wrong thing, and you are history. With that said, I do know men who have found their life partner off online dating with no issue, that led to an extremely happy marriage, kids, and so forth.

I am going to a tinder wedding pretty soon. These guys were not Chads, but never dwelled on the non replies or rejection replies. I think height really helps a lot. I have went one one Okcupid date and one Tinder date. One thing I will say is that Okcupid is very much structurally designed for guys to lose.

Think about that for a second. You are judged by a thumbnail on a cellphone. So there was never any guarantee that a girl would actually even look at your photos full sized! No online dating site does. Okcupid also put out an article that says girls have a higher response rate if they make the first move.

Something like 50 percent. How the power dynamic works after fucks is a mystery to me since I have never gone that far in a non pay for play scenario. One of my friends is sort of cute, out of shape, pretty cool to talk to, and she consistently dates male models, and I can tell, it does not even faze her anymore, like it is no big deal.

Know how many times she has been flaked on? Girls at work have bragged To me in the past about how many dates they have lined up.

With respect to pay 4 play, I killed it there for awhile. Convinced a very physically attractive sweetheart ex-dancer to come see me at my place for nearly 3 years for a ridiculous low price. Even got it for free on my birthday. There were many times I actually cancelled on her just because I was trying to date normally, and eventually we parted ways, but on very cordial terms.

I wish her well. One thing about the pay 4 play game that is surprising is that Girls often flake then as well, with no rhyme or reason. The hot ones tend to quit around I disagree that sugar daddy game is the way to go, but I am basing it off one girl I met from some of those sites. Hot, but mad flaky and mad drama.

Though I am by no means good looking, I am a fairly in shape guy, and I would like to get physically tougher as I get older. For the guys here, I would say that when you are really in shape and look your best in a pay for play situation, make no mistake, you really do stand out in a good way, and I think definitely more appreciated. If you can hold a really good conversation and the girl likes to talk, she will be likely to see you for less than other clients and may make you a priority.

You can absolutely turn it into a mini relationship that is not percent about the money.

The new laws are stupid legislation that lump trafficking and consensual escorting in one category. On one forum sex workers openly stated its making their work harder and they love being sex workers, and women posters were replying to them how there is no way it could be good for their self esteem.

This is the law and society policing and prohibiting consensual behavior, just from the other side. But I guess that is a topic for another day.

Even showing up is a big deal to them. I agree and disagree at the same time. We are a bit different as we are looking for Bi girls who will go with a couple so it narrows the field. We got fucked around a lot. But we also managed to get a few girls who where very non-hooker like and amazing fun to get with for much less than they would be if they where actually hookers. Probably more. We still talk to her and catch up as friends sometimes. Another 19 yo who was hot enough we had a lot of fun with for way less than if she was a hooker.

She was a pain in the ass, very unreliable and we had to push back heaps on her stupid requests. But we still had a lot of fun with her for way less than it would have cost us for a proper hooker. She was just young and a bit silly.

It's because online dating is deceiving. It promotes itself as an easier alternative to "real" dating but is actually considerably more work for the average guy. Let me explain by starting with the female perspectives I've heard. I've spent around.

But hot and fun to fuck. Definitely interesting girls to be found on those sites. We had stupid requests, we just told them to piss off and moved on! Sorry, but all of this is just whinging. Get off the apps and computes and actually chat to women. I do daygame in galleries, museums, exhibitions and have a great return in dates.

That matters above everything else. Like anything in life, the more you pay does not mean the more you get in return. Very beautiful girl, a legit stunner. Fuck that!

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She was pretty damn beautiful, had the best butt I had ever seen on a woman. I made it abundantly clear what I was looking for before she showed up, but she was always very unreliable regardless, and seemed to want different things every time. Looks wise, she was perfect in my book. Once thing is that surprised me about SA was that beautiful women were not willing to meet up in person right away.

The ones I chatted with online literally had the same attitude as any girl from any normal dating website. My site would require the girl looks at your whole profile and photos in full just to read your message. That way if you get rejected, at least you get a fair shot and not because she only saw some shitty thumbnail. Some girls have told me messages in an inbox can be overwhelming, so this would take care of that, plus force the users to really take a look at every message more closely.

A woman told me recently that she got a lot of messages on a dating site, and talking seemed like a chore to her, while I asked her out quickly like BD endorsesso she went on a date with me. As others have pointed out, there are many girls who expect money right away, even to meet for a first date.

But, some will at least meet for free, then you see how it goes from there. I went on 3 first dates, ages 21, 26, and The only time during the date she ever mentioned money is when we somehow got on the topic of shopping and she said she tried not to go too often since she has student loans.

Online dating impossible for guys

But she said that in a laughing way, just making conversation, and never asked for any money or gifts. After that first date, she came over to my house on 3 different occasions, and we had sex each time.

Second one was with the 26 YO and it went well and was another standard date. The third was with the other 21 YO and the first date went fine. But when I pitched a second date, she asked about allowance and when I held frame, she went silent.

My advice with SA is to be up front about what you want. Great article BD.

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Being confident and funny is very attractive but very difficult to demonstrate onlineso please do yourselves and us girls a favor and post better pics:. The problems guys face here are the same most guys face in every corner of the western world. Also most women who date me say they want me to teach guys how to date.

As a side note, been to Colombia earlier this year and women there told me the same: that guys there are usually weak when dating. I agree. I get the same thing from women. By far the biggest complaint I hear is how bad men are on dates. They go into interview mode, scared to progress or wait for the women to send them signals. Hello, BD. I have been reading your blog for quite sometime. I have 2 questions, the first question is in text game part 1 you stated that if a woman breaks up with you, you should not contact her for 2 months.

If you have heard of it. I was hoping online was strong in spots outside of Asia and Africa not being into those girls in general. Like you, this gentleman prefers blondes, big boobs and curvaceous are pluses, but not hard requirements. My time is too valuable for chasing diminishing returns in the every changing landscape of game and dating.

I actually do well with women, especial Latinas. Do you have a top 3 or 5 things you can share with us here? Most women hate the idea of telling their friends they met their current love interest online esp the real hotties. It sounds like you want a perfect place, and there is none. This is a very interesting point. Which I think is strangely odd. Some kind of daygame Renaissance as a reaction to the prevalence of online dating?

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Or not. Guys jumped onboard when it first became popular as they felt it was going to be easy as Pick-up companies promised that all they had to do was use a few Jedi mind tricks to get girls to go home with them from the supermarket! Once they found out that for every date you get, you get rejected dozens of times, they skulked back to the bars and clubs and online sites.

Guys that do well from it like myself and others are prepared to tough it out but also develop themselves by travelling, having hobbies, being aware of social trends, current affairs etc.

It results in extremely low yield even for attractive men. SA has been good to me. I target yo students and my preference is black girls. Most are so easy to meet up with. We have great sex and talk lots of nerd talk.

She costs me her tuition and misc expenses and basically acts like my long-term gf. Another is a 19yo smaller air-stewardess student with a bf of 2 years.

They do enjoy it and it keeps their mind off of being a ho. The ones that want to to rich are dropped pretty quickly. Also, I get zero matches on Tinder. Not much on pof which is even worse because of the age-matching they do. They are just gross. Fresh meat. The newer the better. Sugar babies are like hookers in some regards but not in others. Talking out of my ass as I have no experience with either. Financially speaking, correct. Only if a man meets the two criteria I spelled out here.

Otherwise a man should never pay for sex, sugar daddy or hooker makes no difference. BD wrote a post about this I believe in early What people do not understand is that PUAism, which started off well enough in the late 90s-early 00s, became very perverted figuratively and literally. Just look at the RSD guys and the chicks they get with. Left wing is in the interest of defending weak people at all costs. And what are weak people, generally?

Anyone who is not alpha. However, unlike the right wing, they are not sex negative. But when they see a guy doing this kind of stuff, its chauvinistic. Problem is, there is still sexual gatekeeping going on, and this creates a lot of misunderstandings in romance. Only the narrative has changed. Back in the day it was nearly impossible for a chick to have a fulfilling sex life.

This explains why they did just as much serial murdering as men back then. The only thing that changed from then to now is the gender. They encourage chicks to get at men, but only high value men. As soon as said man loses his value as proven by all these famous guys who are getting accused of harassmentthen they get punished.

What a surprise, women want to rule the world and tell everyone what to do just as much as men do. What a concept!

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It literally will not apply to you. Use this stuff to your advantage! People are talking about sex openly more and more, makes things much easier than back in the day when you had to kind of hint at it.

Get some buddies, go out, meet another group of buddies, and all of a sudden everyone knows each other and you now have good access to buddies of buddies who you can get with easily. Day game and social circle, homies. Those will stand the test of time. Do anybody notice flaking from dates go up lately despite comfort bombardment? I think at least in tinder dates.

I never act emotionally to flake but if its happen a lot its pain in the ass for your own timing. Im thinking about start double booking dates as a solution for this. What about blackdragon do you ever use that strategy and how large is your dates flake rate?

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Tinder has become that app girls use when they get into a fight with their BFs or need validation. At least in my area and age group it has. Most of the time they cancel, disappear, or block your number because they made up with a bf. Or they move on to a more serious dating app. As I say in my books, women are flakey. I have noticed no uptick in overall flakiness with women however.

It depends on how they do it. I always double-check the day before or morning before a first date. If they verbally cancel the date, then I just reschedule with them. Should i see her again, noted this was 2nd date, a nurse also. What if you double book and both woman seems to show up?

Do you just reschedule another and how early before date?

online dating is not a low point. lots of people use it because of circumstances and it's no different then meeting someone at a coffee shop. and yeah, it's harder for guys sure. but not impossible 1 | 1. Overall, dating for men also involves costs and trade-offs. Double-binds and unknown frustrations, however, can be explained. The choices may not always be ideal, but some satisfaction can be. When dating feels impossible, here's what you should tell yourself: You only need to meet one person. Back in the pre-online dating days, if you were single, it was because you hadn't met anyone in your daily life that caught your interest.

Often girls cancel date in same day. In my system I reschedule 1 time if they suggesting another day. If they just cancel without any reason or flaking 2 times its automatic next.

Singapore girls are rapacious gold diggers - notorious for it. I guess that comes with living in one of the most expensive cities in the world. And the climate sucks balls. Location: Major city, about 2 mio city population and about twice as much when including the metro area. Feel free to message me. The issue for me is not so much getting responses but turning these responses into actual dates. Some girls are obviously not interested but reply anyway. Their answers are very short and disinterested.

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I try to follow all of BDs advice. My main profile picture is rated 9 of 10 points on one of my major dating sites. That leaves the conversational topics. At the beginning I tried to ask interesting stuff.

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So I asked things like how happy they are with their life. Recently I tried much lighter topics like talking about animals or travel. I did not notice any big difference in my results except that the lighter topics are faster in execution.

My messages are short and end with a question or statement about here. Most of my targets are cute or average looking since that allows me to put in more numbers and I just want to get started with this system.

So, the women break down into a few groups. The biggest is probably provider hunters, who overlap with Disney B. But shit happens. A lot of women get disappointed with that particular dream and then decide a white male could fill the dream instead.

Jun 18,   Ignore all the pussies who say it's now "impossible" to get laid with online dating. I regularly, as in every week, talk to regular, average-looking men all over the Western world, of all ages and types, who are still getting laid regularly with attractive women using normal online dating. Nov 15,   And perhaps, the real lesson I am learning, is that online dating may be more of a distraction than a path towards a relationship. It's more like . If you're dating a man and he, at the ripe old age of 26, has yet to secure gainful employment, an apartment not furnished by things he found next to a Dumpster, or the ability to return a call within a twenty-four-hour window - that's okay! In fact, if he is hot in that mysterious, greasy-haired way, you've got the pick of the litter!

Then there are sugar daddy hunters. They are often quite blunt about what they want. The smallest group, but still a large number, is women who are just horny and feel that there will be less fuss with a foreign male than with a local, more discreet, less potential risk to their reputation.

You need to do SOME screening. I generally reject women in head scarves wholesale, although I did see one the other day who claimed to be a bisexual who was open to non-monogamy. No reply as yet.

Or just leave it until you meet. All the usual rules apply, you should be in good shape, dress well, and so on, but age in itself is not always a precluding factor. Women tend to get MORE sex positive once they hit around 30, not less. Most of those turn into conversations, some fade outs and disappearances. Maybe half of those will end up meeting you, and half again of those will have sex with you. Hmm, setting a second date target might be pushing it.

Third date would be more realistic. Meet for coffee first time, maybe some fun, low cost activity the second time film, or maybe just more coffee. Invite them over the next time. If they come to your house alone, the deal is done. Maybe slightly less sexual talk than Dragon suggests, at least for a guy my age.

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Just light, fun conversation, joking around, a bit of teasing. Some younger guys push the sexual stuff a bit more and it seems to work for them. All this is from the perspective of someone who lives here. Most of the women online seem to speak English pretty well. I can speak Indonesian, but I usually use English unless they specifically ask. Is it getting harder?

Still seems pretty easy. The OKCupid changes to the messaging system were a bit of a drag. Almost all Indonesian women now have Tinder, whether or not they are actually looking for sex.

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OKCupid is better. Any accomplished daygamer will tell you that daygame is difficult, period. What kind of numbers do you recommend tracking for daygame.

With online game I used canned openers, specific profile photos, etc that I keep stats for. For any given daygame session recording the number of approaches, venue, openers, and type of girl is all great.

My Tinder blew up immediately. Hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of matches of hot women. Very little effort needed on my part, at all. The only qualification was that the girl had to speak some English, of course. Many did who found me. In person, too. Holy shit. There was a couple dancing to a band. I went up to the guy and asked about the band had no intention of hitting on anyone.

I think the experience was almost a sad one. I was there for two weeks. Some were average 7s rather than smoking hot but the ratio was crazy. The women are so hot, they reject hot women at club doors and let in American men just fine. Which is true.

Supply and demand. Jesus Christ is all I have to say. These are basically tall, model white women. But uh, again.

By which I mean, very little effort was needed. I said generic shit on Tinder, it gets a very positive response. Half the Tinder profiles at least are fatties. But uh. It appears you have dated Russian women in the US. They were grabbing my ass, etc.

What about age differences?

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