Have you ever dated someone who has a wandering eye? When out with your girlfriend, does she check out other guys and sometimes hit on them? A major reason couples get into arguments relates to flirting. So what should you do when something like this happens? I mention this because sometimes when jealousy rears its ugly head, it has a way of distorting reality. This point is particularly true if you struggle with self-esteem issues that ignite your anxiety. The next step is to have an honest look in the mirror and own any of your own behaviors.
Thank you for taking the time to put into words what I could not. Is that the society you wish to live in. Is that the society you wish to create, and leave behind. You are attempting to change society in such a way, that women will need to change themselves to fit in. They will wrongly believe that being promiscuous is the correct path. In this world, as humans, we are to learn to control our insecurities, both men and women, and develop together. You wish step on and bring out the worst in women, in a selfish attempt to feel better about yourself.
I pity you, as you were a victim of someone who changed society long ago to what it is now, and are too immature and blind to see reality. You seem to be afraid of your insecurities, and on the contrary to what you claim to say, your the one who is running away from your insecurities.
What kind of authentic, deep relationship can you have when your girlfriend is having sex with other guys? This advice is no better than the Machiavellian Red Pill bullshit floating around on the Internet.
You are no better than PUA. In fact you are the same, just masquerading as something better. Not all men actually most men out there know how to approach and talk to a woman naturally. There are actually good guys out there with no intention of laying s of women, but just want to learn how to approach and attract one.
You blame PUAs tactics as manipulation? Fine, maybe they are a bit. Did you actually read the points made in the article? Or just read the title and assume you knew what it was about? The content advises men get women they are dating to date other men. If non-exclusive, casual relationships are your bag then cool. Yes, I did read the article and I find it deplorable.
Eliminating neediness and your insecurities can be done by working on yourself. And you say that you are different.
How to deal when she dating other guys
I know that I and most people who are psychologically mature would feel very wrong doing it. Have you stopped to consider if these ideas are true? The first one, to me, is incredibly limiting and has the potential to cause a lot of problems including jealousy, loneliness, and frustration in your life.
The second one is more of a moral judgement but still limiting, nonetheless. This article has clearly awoken some deeply held limitations in your unconscious and if you take the opportunity to open up, rather than close down, you could learn a lot about yourself and grow through this. You got it. But in the world of causal playing, it can be beneficial.
The author is ultimately suggesting that you have to fuck many women to get rid of your neediness and insecurities, instead of focusing on one. This is a very immature attitude and I feel sorry for anyone who buys into his products.
By the way I read both of his books. They are based of off gross generalizations about what the seduction community is. Great article. Funny enough, the more you do what told in this article, the more she will want to be exclusive with you.
Just show you again attraction is very counter intuitive. Yeah, um if a guy I was seeing came to me and advised me to go out and see other guys I would take it as a huge red flag. But props to you for legitimizing cuckoldness! You guy call all be a bunch of cucks whatevs.
How To React When You Find Out They're Also Dating Other People
You pathetic beta male! I have 4 personal experiences with letting my girlfriend have sex with other guys. Each with its own out come.
I consider just sex and love 2 difference things so has long has she told me i was ok with it. Never any race issues or homophobic traits.
My current girl is white and 2 of my ex girlfriends were white and they fucked black guys raw in my bed multiple times. Hell three even stayed a week with me and my current girlfriend and we all take turns at her. The opposite happened to me recently. A woman i was seeing started to talk about wanting to be FREE to date other men after she got off anti-depressants.
Then something happened to her that brought us back together. Everything was good for the first 3 weeks or so and then the last time we were together after a night of making love- the next night she said she wanted to be free to see other men and not be in a committed relationship but that she was very comfortable with me physically. I played along with the dialogue to see where it would go. Would you let me know? I guess you can say it turned into goodbye sex.
She admitted to leading me on and realized it was not healthy behavior and I told her to call me if she ever wanted to just be with me. The freedom of the internet has confused many poor souls who have been hurt and instead of getting real help they read articles that encourage them to be FREE!
The truth is that it takes vulnerability to keep it fresh and work things out with one person. One has to take their armor off to do this. Lower consciousness is claiming to be free but really chasing Neuro-chemicals for a fix.
Just a different kind of drug. To the addict, relationships are boring. Very ambitious, very fucking stupid, what could possibly go wrong? My apologies for spelling or grammar issues.
It started as a teen around somewhere around that age. However, it matured into who I am today around 19 I could tell many stories of sex that most would not believe. However, it seems you are getting plenty of that here. The person who commented This post is great for fantasy but not in real life it cause more issues Not trying to be rude. However, Those are the words of a weak person. There is nothing that this lifestyle can bring that I have not experienced, felt or seen.
To the writer of this post. My wife came across this post and shared it with me. She was right, It nice to see others have gained the strength to not let their simple-minded weaknesses rule their life. I will list a few big things like the author did. It makes for some hot crazy intense sex. If you have not fucked out wife after she has been with another man.
You are not living only creeping by. I promise your girl will give you the best sex you ever had. It makes for a very strong bond between two people if it moved into marriage or life commitment. The odds of your marriage lasting a lifetime are increased by a large percent. Cons to this way of life. Only the cons you allowed society and your mind to create. Dude if she leaves you for another. She is not the right girl for you. I speak out to men as I feel they are weaker minded than women in most cases.
The author is right though. You have to be a strong person to live free. Their weak thoughts get in the way of there life. It also is the proof you are weak. Only being honest.
If anything I would like to help the weak become stronger. It will strengthen you in a countless way. The human mind is designed this way all us men and women alike. All men desire sex with another mans girl.
She should be scared to death of talking about other guys around you, not because you'll get upset, but because she doesn't want to lose you. When she's completely and utterly in love with you, she'll be extremely hesitant to talk about other guys around you because she doesn't want to push you away. Dec 26, If during the conversation she admits to hitting on other guys and acts like it's no big deal, you need to break up fast. That's because you are dating someone who is only interested in getting attention (from other guys) and could care less about your comfort zone. Jul 18, If the one person you're seeing is also seeing other people, it could be that they don't want to be in a relationship. Unfortunately, that Author: Elana Rubin.
We unconsciously want to put our bloodline in another bloodline without the male knowing. However, it gives the desired result all the same. There was a study in the group about 10 years ago. I will try and find it. The study was about sex, lust, desire, and passion.
The did a study with 20 men and 10 women. They lived together for 90 days. Sex naturally started within the first 3 days of living together. To keep this short. It showed that women who had sex with one man. It showed in the end that the men were naturally having sex with other women within minutes to an hour after the woman has sex with another man. If you ask the men what woman they wanted. It showed women, had more sexual pleasure fucking the second man because it was dirty and hot.
It showed women were sexually drawn to the men having the most sex. It also showed when all were ask not to have sex for a few days.
The women would seduce the top men, not the best looking. This is driven by lust and passion. However, the reason behind this is what I stated above there is a primitive drive behind this behavior and very natural one at that.
When the experiment was over. The womon that had the most sex. This is just one experiment. I still get to have sex with other women every now and then. My wife did not live this lifestyle when we met. The only thing it has done to out very happy life together is make out passion, lust, and desire for one another strong very strong. Sex with other is just that sex.
My wife is my everything. I love the way she drives me crazy. Hope this help make someone find the strength to fight their self-made demons. I think your logic is based on a percentage of women and men in a given society hint: western culture and also has to do with age group. On the other hand, same woman in her early 20s can continue experimenting about sex with multiple men with worries about relationship. Same logic can be applied to men.
Why do you need to even be in a relationship at the first place then?
She's Talking to Other Guys: Is She Playing Me? (Dating Advice for Men)
Without sexual commitment - I want her out of my home! I can tolerate women in my bed for sex, but not living with her if she keeps on fucking other guys. So, I dumped him. Figured he had another woman he was hitting on. This article is not for the faint of heart or doe-eyed lover boys who long for their true love. I summed it up as a chit test for if your woman will be promiscuous or not.
If she shows she just wants to be with you she maybe long term status. Men must confront their insecurities for their own betterment or end up with a broken heart ready for violence.
My two cents. Excellent POV. I enjoyed it. Yeah, I guess it is a good way to test slutiness, but do you really think it would be productive for a woman to say the same to her boyfriend? It would be useless, really. There are no rules literally NO rules on how to behave, or act, or respond to shitty behavior. This little treatise on how to pull women in by giving them the illusion of leeway is everything wrong with society.
The dating world has become obscene, boring, and obsolete. I know how men like to complain that women are whores, but the very same thing could be said about men, to the point that dating has become more of a nuisance than anything. A year ago I was worried about losing my pride or feeling betrayed 4 month ago I had an epiphany I opened my eyes to the nonsense.
Tinder, okcupid all these online meat markets People see potential dating partners. You know what I see? I see walking STDs, parasites, possible contaminants. Bam antibiotic resistant chlamydia! All for what? Something I could have done at home by myself or with erotic toys from the sex shop!
Not to mention all the disease that could be spread with a condom: herpes, genital warts, crabs, amongst other delightful pathogens. Sex is a filthy, collective f ck fest, as dirty as gym showers or communal toilets.
So yeah. No thanks. Being scared is well as hell. You eventually get over that stuff. Lover boys understand it. People who think they can mimic love with superficial ideas will just stay in there own psychological box forever. Who writes nonsense articles like this.
You should indicate the age group for this type of encouragement. If you are not sure of relationship, leave it right away and go fool around. Encouraging the other to play around just because you want to play around yourself has nothing to do with embracing your insecurities. How old are you, ? Then understandably. How dumb can this guy be. Why would you want her? As a woman and an anti-feminist I was disgusted and shocked by this post. Even more did I feel horrified reading all of the supportive comments.
I was very tempted to check how often she logged on and other things. Even taking one step in that direction is suicide. It leads to more checking. You become needy and try to account for her time. Who was she with? Even if you could, she could still find some way to meet with a lover without you knowing if she wanted.
The worst part is that it can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. She sees your insecurity and starts to lose attraction for you. Or she feels crowded by your jealousy, and so she does cheat on you. Or she uses your expressions of weakness and jealousy as a wedge to get what she wants from you before leaving you.
What to do instead of getting jealous. Even a verbal promise of exclusivity is a worthless indicator compared to how she acts around you.
If I'm dating a guy early on and he tells me that he's dating other women I won't be offended. Well maybe I will feel some type of way about it lol but I will get over it. I just hope he understands that it is quite possible that I'm already dating other guys as well. And if he asks and I .
What she says with her words do not in any way necessarily correspond to her actions. Often times they are a smoke screen. Her words can almost always be safely ignored in lieu of her actions.
You can start with some of these articles. Advanced Tactics to Turn Back the Tide. How to Handle Her Bad Behavior. No doubt there are people out there who can happily see more than two people at once. But once you start to see each other regularly more than once a week and text or talk on a daily basis, other people generally fall to the wayside in one way or another.
Maybe she talks about hanging out with other guys but is really into you when she sees you. That can be a problem too. The correct response is to pull her back in until she is completely focused on you.
This is excellent, lucid advice for how to advance your relationship past obstacles without getting in your own way. After she commented about staying on match until her subscription was up my head started spinning. Suspicious jealousy set in for no reason and i began to question a couple things that i should not have which ended things immediately. Gotta love those Martin episodes! Successful, beautiful, funny, intelligent and classy. And most importantly she likes you.
Nothing sleazy. Now on the other hand lets say that she never gives you any inclination that she dates other men and you happen to run into her on a date. Then, in my opinion you may have some leverage in being upset with her.
The WAY in which you find out does matter! I must mention tho that it is important to ask these questions when you start seeing someone on a consistent basis. Because lets be honest. Should you be upset? Well yes only if everyone else except you meaning him and her knew about these acquaintances and still chose to proceed.
Yeah not cool.
At all. Then hell yes you should be angry. Now this one is kinda heavy. Only dating for 3 months? Been there, done that, got a t-shirt! And as we all know both males and females can be sideline joints these days.