Is it worth it? Go to Page Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. I very recently started dating a woman. Physically she is totally my type. I like her personality.
No one is perfect in this day and age. Financial troubles she can get herself out of in time. Emotional baggage, hmmmmm. How much more do you think you'd be hurting her if you rejected her because of it?
Quality in a sucessful relationship, would be if the partner was more interested in where you two as a couple were heading into the future, rather than being so wrapped up in what she had to go through in her past.
Some things get better over time and love and trust. Some don't.
If you like her, then support her, rather than running her through your laundry list of reasons why she might be setting off alarms in your head and ditching her just because not "every" possible ct of her nature is genuinely appealing or convinient to you at the time.
I'm not telling you to stay with her and tough it out I would go to great lengths to emphasize NOT to stay with her, if you can't accept her as an entire package. I'm sure there is someone out there who can and will. When you say "recently" just how recent are you talking?
I was a woman with some baggage when I entered my latest relationship but I didn't make it that any of his concern. Those were my issues and because I liked him enough, I didn't want to weigh him down. I wanted him to get to like and know the best part of me. I know we all have our "baggage" of some sort so i don't want to throw her under the bus either. I would be concerend if it consumes her and the relationship you are trying to start.
Dating a guy with a lot of baggage
Everybody has some type of baggage to deal with. You just recently started going out with her so you need to get to know her a little better before giving up. She may or may not be able to handle another relationship right now depending on why she got out of the other relationship I would take it slow, maybe put a time limit on it, like 3 months and go from there.
Originally Posted by dixierox. Originally Posted by NooYowkur Like I said I'm torn because I do like her, and part of me thinks she's worth a gamble. It's only been a few weeks.
Jan 17, Having recently been dumped by a man with baggage, all I can say is avoid. The baggage this guy had meant his head was all over the place. He was depressed, stressed about all cts of his life and lived with a mother that couldn't let go. She wrapped him in cotton wool and wouldn't let him do anything for himself. Pathetic. Mar 15, Most people carry some kind of wound from their past. "Baggage" is a part of life-the natural reaction to heartbreak, loss, trauma, and abuse. But baggage doesn't necessarily mean a relationship is destined for catastrophe-if you deal with it in a healthy way. It's not a bad thing to take a chance on someone who has "issues.". Dating a guy with a lot of baggage - Register and search over 40 million singles: chat. Rich man looking for older woman & younger man. I'm laid back and get along with everyone. Looking for an old soul like myself. I'm a man. My interests include staying up late and taking naps. Men looking for a man - Women looking for a woman.
It's still very very early. I can easily pull away. I have to disagree with the rest of the people here.
Women: How to Deal With Men With Emotional Baggage
There is baggage and there is baggage. Living with a depressed person is a downer and not worth it. If you were married, that would be different - for better or for worse.
Deal with your own feelings first.
But why chase trouble. She sounds very troubled - may be bipolar. If that is the case, there are meds, but she has to take them forever.
Trust me on this one. Embrace it. The marriage stigma is present for women as well. I cringed at the thought of having to tell men I was dating that I was divorced. Not because I was ashamed, but because I knew that there is a stigma attached and very often it turns the man off.
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That there is something wrong with you. Or the thought that there was another guy before them. I ended up telling my wonderful amazing boyfriend about weeks into dating.
I was scared. I cried. He thought about it for a few minutes then told me he was okay with it. One thing he agreed on was that because I had been married and divorced I was much more ready to be with him in a healthy way. The things I learned about myself prepared me to be a better person in my next relationship because I knew myself better and I knew what it took for a serious relationship to crumble.
I HATE it when people automatically discredit men or women because they are divorced. They are missing out. I hear ya loud and clear. Seems silly-there are so many people going thru it!
Dec 10, I very recently started dating a woman. Physically she is totally my type. I like her personality. We also have a lot of things in common. She seems to have a good heart, and seems like a good person. However, she has quite the bit of baggage. She recently just got out of a 3 year relationship. She also has untreated depression. Let's face it: We've all had the oh-so-delightful experience of dating someone who had too much emotional baggage. Unfortunately, it's often not until you're knee-deep in a relationship that you realize just how much baggage he or she has. Wouldn't it be nice if you could train yourself to spot emotional baggage sooner so that . Dating a guy with a lot of baggage - How to get a good man. It is not easy for women to find a good man, and to be honest it is not easy for a man to find a good woman. Is the number one destination for online dating with more marriages than any other dating or personals site. If you are a middle-aged man looking to have a good time dating man half your age, this article is for you.
I think hope? Handful of years later I dated a recent college grad in her early 20s and it was a train wreck. When that divorcee was dating you, a young 23 something, well, who knows what she thought?
But I bet you were balm to her wounds, and a lovely chapter in her life. YOu may have helped her thru a very rough time, and reminded her of how lovely and loved she could be.
I think I might have had some kind of effect; I broke it off after seven months and a week later she met the guy she ended up marrying. Happy for the girl.
Hey, I know this is an old article. But any thoughts? The second marriage ended because of the girl.
Comes out of first marriage with one biological son. Comes out of the second marriage with one stepson.
And then you could date someone who had one bad breakup and he or she never quite recovers. Or what kids he has out of it.
Do you want him in your life. No promises in love, period. Davelynn I know this is old so u may not be on here anymore. The details dont equal too much baggage, in my opinion.
None of his past or present circumstances should be excused to the point of your needs as a woman going neglected. You must still be able to obtain respect honor and reasonable contributions from this man that enhances your life. Having recently been dumped by a man with baggage, all I can say is avoid. The baggage this guy had meant his head was all over the place. If they have baggaed. Divorce is the public acknowledgment of personal failure.
The overwhelming number of divorced people I have known always blame the other partner. It was never their fault. They just picked the wrong person. I say bullshit. That they cannot work out differences and that they are quitters. Terri I think you have some good advice but this is not one one of those columns. Divorced people bring the naivete of the first engagement and the baggage of the failed marriage. There is a whole moving van of baggage there.
What feels so scary about not knowing the details of their past? What do I need to feel more grounded? Be careful not to force disclosure.
This means listening closely and connecting with their feelings rather than bringing in your own. It can be helpful to express worry and frustrations to trusted people. They have learned their own unique ways to protect themselves in order to feel safe in a relationship.
This has little, if anything, to do with you. Be tactful and honest about your own fears and how their behavior affects you. Be honest with yourself about what you are able to tolerate.
Take it personally.