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Join or Renew Today! Travel Tips Vacation Ideas Destinations. Leaving AARP. Got it! Please don't show me this again for 90 days. Cancel Continue. Thank You Close. Your email address is now confirmed. And I suspect that women feel the same way but am not sure so I am asking here. The eldest with her boyfriend of 11 years. From time to time they join us for dinners or game nights or just to watch a movie.
I view my job at this stage, being to help my three kids save for their first houses. I derive a lot of pleasure out of sharing my time with five very fine young men and women whom I am proud to call family. I wonder though if women feel a sense of freedom at a different stage in parenting or age presumably of their youngest child than a man does. Is it when your child finishes high school, graduates university, gets that first job, moves out of the family house, gets married, has a child of their own?
I know that a parent is always bonded to their children and suspect that bond is maybe stronger for a mother than for a father, but at what stage do you reckon a single mother feels free of her parenting responsibility? Some weeks I have slackers for varying reasons but on balance they do what is expected of them - they are good house mates! They are a pleasure to be around and not a burden even though I sometimes get ticked off when I feel one of them is not pulling their weight as they ought to.
For me that sense of freedom came around about the time that my youngest explained his strategy for completing his undergraduate, masters, PhD course of study. He put my mind at ease that although his timetable is not the timetable I would have chosen at the same age it is what he is comfortable with and what he is confident about. I know that he will land on his feet even if he encounters a setback. What a kind, noble Father you are! I have a 22 year old son at Uof I and a daughter who is a senior in H.
Still deciding on colleges.
I devoted my life to my children, and have no regrets. It is time for me. With or without. God speed. Well, I may not need a man to rescue me financially or help raise children, but I not only need a partner, I want a partner. What do I need? Hugs, physical touch, someone to touch in the night, it is a very lonely place without the very thing many of us divorced people took for granted. You cannot buy genuine intimacy, that must come from give and take.
So yes, I have the career, the stability, the grown children, but I would be at my finest with a friend and lover beside me, a strong man. Now I want to be your loving companion and friend and live with you in harmony, love, understanding, and just being there for you to hold you tight and embrace you on all your lonely nights!
At least you are truthful. Face it, we all want what you said if we are healthy normal people. What would she need him for, anyway? Wanting is not the same as needing. I graduated at 17, met my husband. I continued to do what I call all of the mom things and loved doing those thingswatching her cheer. Just continue to be honest to tell all men to avoid you unless they also do not want a sexual relationship.
Wish all women were that honest! Thanks for posting this, Linda. After divorce, some strange realizations are surely in store for both sexes. One is how much your dating pool has shrunk since you were last looking for love. Another is how poorly most Americans have been taking care of themselves. Unlike most I think people dating after 40, I set about educating myself thoroughly about how attraction is created in both sexes, so as to put my very best self forward.
This gave me a stronger sense of self, a stronger sense of masculinity and how to express it, and a stronger sense of where women are coming from and the cues they naturally give us. What continues to surprise me is what little effort is put forth in general by the age appropriate women, in all venues combined, to meet. An attractive woman in her 20s may sit coyly and bat her eyes, and merely select her choice of suitor from the ensuing male attention.
But what are the 40s and 50s women thinking? In my experience, she is not putting herself out there. Perhaps her excuses have become self-fulfilling. But why should I give up? It could be that women in their 40s and 50s are lost in finding their role in this new age of dating. What do you think? It is because women beyond menopause are not interested in men - I do not understand why this so difficult - there is so much information out there to support this very common knowledge.
Just look up marriage statistics provided by the census. Once women hit 50 they outnumber men and it gets progressively worse each passing year. So if a women thinks sitting around waiting for prince charming is a good strategy, time is not your friend, so good luck with that! I really feel this is too negative. I have kept in shape and work and looking good and being kind and interesting, positive not jaded.
In the real world and online, I have men from mid 40s onward interested. Most are around my age. I haven found the right one yet, but I see a lot of similar ages people getting together even though men and some women dream about getting someone much younger. The dating pool is none existent when you have kids at my age any suggestions.
You are to old to have kids that young anyway. Now that your fascination with your young thang is over. Screw that. Try to meet women who also have young children. We are out here and looking for the same thing. Life stage is equally important as age. There are many women that would love to get to know a man who is widowed with small children, including myself. Hang in there!
You will find someone if you stay positive and take good care of yourself. He is remarried to a lovely younger woman and their family has now grown to four children.
I think the odds are in your favor but you have to stay positive, be a good companion and have a sense of humor. It is obvious you succeeded before and you will againage is only a number.
What about early 40s, never been married and zero children, do not want children ever, and do not care whether or not I ever marry, or just have a years long relationship unmarried? Thats a category of people I know for women, myself included. Not everyone wants kids. Not all women get married either. I am perfectly happy as is. You want someone who cares about you, not who sees you as an accessory.
Can we all finally agree men are fundamentally defective? Sounds like even more fun. After everything Ive done, succeeded at and been through thats my value? Paying to be a nanny. Any wonder the world is in such a mess. Looking around women are doing pretty well for themselves without the guys, and the guys are a train wreck.
No it means even good men have to make compromises because so many of us girls have got jack of it all and taken ourselves off the market to focus on things that unlike dating are rewarding. Considering globalization, immigration, the rising 3rd world and how the favouring of boy babies in some cultures has left their population short of women it may even swing the other way for the following generatons. I already know women my age and older who have married well educated, attractive and well rounded Asian and Indian men and they are very happy.
A few have married younger men as well with the same result, those men seem to try more to make a good relationship. Apparently, you were the leavee and not the leaver in your marriage. I was also the leavee and did not want a divorce, nor believe that God would support the dissou lution of the marriage of 33 years that only he could have orchestrated from the beginning.
I feel like you need to further examine your attitude moving forward. If not, you have a high probability of your life ending single and alone.
Resource for dating advice. Includes places to date, how to date online, dating after 50, and matchmaking. Jul 01, We asked dating experts, Valerie Gibson, author of Later Dater: A Guide for Newly Single Women Over 50, and Ronnie Ann Ryan, the Dating Coach for Women, about the six things they should know about men in their 50s. He wants someone close to his age. Despite what Hollywood May-December pairings suggest, Gibson says a man in his 50s wants to date Author: Brianne Hogan. A's a man in his mid 50's dating a woman in her mid 30's, I will tell you the reason. There years ago I became single, I had this woman around my age who was very keen to go out with me. I told her Ilike her but I have one rule, that is we split the bill on the first date.
Make no mistake about it. Your right about one thing though: There are not a lot of good men out there in the 50 plus population. I would like to think I can still find love again at any age. Kids are grown and married, so I only have myself to take. Would you like to meet me? Well said. Its still hard to find a country guy, not just a booty call. Im lookin for dailey companion for long term say 35 yrs plus. Been there i completely agree that many NOT all!
It is no wonder that women who have witnessed these delusional types has no respect towards men in general and keep spreading that bad reputation.! Damn, you are my mentor. Thinking maybe I should just dump him. I may have more confidence single. Being with someone makes me feel insecure I want to be free, confident, happy, and proud. This came from my aunt who loved and adored her husband. Time will tell. Listen to your heart. That was so funny and yet wise and true.
You must have grown up in West Virginia? Where the men are men and the sheep are nervous. Sorry about your luck. We are pigs, oink, oink. An article in the saporiviafrancigena.com even went so far as to encourage women to go after much younger men, can you imagine if someone wrote an article like that encouraging 50yo men to go after 20something women?
That author would be attacked immediately. Your post is the best of all!! This is coming from a younger woman who accidently stumbled upon this site. Not even short term in most instances. A lot of older men do not have their stuff together as they should. Even the ones who have it together financially seems not to have anything else to offer other than that. I will pass on the older guy as he really, really needs to start looking at women his own age.
There is nothing worse than a 50s, 60s, and 70s yo male chasing a woman in her 30s. No daddy issues on this end, guys from 30 to 45 only. At one time I had no less than 15 male friends between ages of in my phone. Some I met personallysome on dating siteothers school mates. All very interested in having a serious relationship. Me being a gemini and freshly out of a 22 yr marriage is in no hurry for anything serious. The key ladies is having self confidence in yourself.
Then again I look nowhere near 51I look no older than Good genes runs in my family I guess. So ladieslike a gentleman told me. Never step out of the house without looking your best because you never know who you might meet. It means looking as SEXY and attractive as possible. I dated attractive women a few years either side of my age. I found my wonderful gsl. I love her to pieces. We are attracted to fit, good looking females.
That is a given. I really dont care about your successes in life, where you have travelled, etc. Beyond this? Someone who has enthusiasm in life and has energy. I expect that shewill get a bit of a thrill from it. I spend a good chunk of my life being respondible. Never smoked. Never tried drugs. Never been out of shape.
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She can be my wife, partner, etc. I would like to meet you Mike McCain! How very well thought out, and presented. Maybe we all get too serious as we get older? This is great! I enjoyed reading your story Mike.
The first impression is the lasting one, and as such, it is the reality that we judge first by looks. And as you navigate through the relationship with your loved one, it should be a promise you make to each other to stay relatively fit and attractive. The way you take care of yourself is an indicative of how you feel about yourself.
Not surprising at all to this something guy. I am in my mid 40s and have been in an unhappy marriage for many years. I must be one of those rare men because I find women in their 50s mentally stimulating therefore attractive. Once I can end my marriage I most likely will not date a woman younger than in her late 40s. Older women, for the most part, have life experience and know what they want.
The maturity they bring with them is what I seek. They compliment my desire to grow and be a wiser man than I was yesterday. They offer so much outside of the bedroom which makes the whole relationship to be built on more solid grounds. I am fit and attractive but I would never be fooled by the beauty without maturity which is something many young women lack.
For the time being I just have to be patient until the time is right. Lots of interesting perspectives. I am 62 and separated. One shoe really does not fit all. After 8 months I am finally at the stage where I accept my life going forward is going to be vastly different. And that is it, just different not better not worse only different.
It is totally up to me to live my life happily. Whether I will ever share my life again with someone is not really a concern of mine. If it happens fine, if not fine too. I was always independent and will continue to remain independent. Each new person I meet has something new to offer. I am not bitter, I feel for my ex-husband who now sports a tattoo. Kind of sad when you still have to find yourself over Life has a lot to offer and I plan to take full advantage of it.
But never ever become defeated or bitter. What I am up against is this: I have a full, satisfying life as a single divorced 5 years woman, but I want a loving partnership with a significant other.
I am having a hard time meeting men my age who are interested in women my age, as the author states. I am in therapy. I agree that it seems to be much harder for women over 50 - or over 40 actually - to find men who are their equals AND who are interested in a serious relationship with them. I see so many woman over 40 who are smart, attractive, well-educated, successful, emotionally mature, financially solvent, and have great personalities, but who get involved with men who have few or none of these qualities, or who treat them terribly.
It seems like these women feel that at least this is better than being alone. It seems logical, and research has showed that a large percentage of women are bisexual to some degree. It may be a challenging adjustment after a lifetime of heterosexuality, but to me it seems worth it for women to be able to get a higher quality partner. There have been reports that there is indeed an increasing trend for women to switch to same-sex relationships in midlife, and I hope it continues to grow!
It seems to me that this would solve most of the problem. I would never seek or accept an erotic relationship with a woman because I am simply not interested in women sexually.
I agree with you, Starlight. After being in intimate relationships with men all of my adult life there is no way I could have an intimate relationship with a woman. I am just not interested in women that way, and I like what I can have with a man. There years ago I became single, I had this woman around my age who was very keen to go out with me.
I told her Ilike her but I have one rule, that is we split the bill on the first date. For the next few weeks she was still hinting she like me but she would not bend on her sexist issue of self entitlement. I would never go out with an old woman again, they are to sexist. Good luck with that young gal you found, enjoy it while it lasts. It may be a little old fashioned, but I prefer the original method of courtship. Nothing wrong with a little chivalry, even in this day and age.
BTW - I am in shape and do consider myself attractive - but I do not think being attractive and in shape defines me? You have to reach for the best in life for YOU! Kudos to all!!! Selfish and vain people has no gender restriction. I am in my 50s, divorced a few. Years my choice.
Been told I look a bit like Tony danza. Super spiritual and pretty much have my act together.
Is there even such a thing? I just really miss intimacy and male companionship. When you meet a good, kind man who has a sense of humor, life can be a lot of fun. Being with someone spiritual is even more icing on the cake for me because I am very spiritual myself. I hope everyone finds who or what they seek. I spent 18 really terrible years married to a real harpie. I was her second husband. Even my mother-in-law and brother-in-law apologized to me on a nearly continuous basis for the way she treated me.
My attorney asked me how in the world I was able to hang in there until my children were old enough to decide who they wished to live with. He asked what the hell that was, that he needed some.
Lots of bourbon. I dated half-heartedly for a few years.
The oldest woman was 58, and the youngest An attorney, a banker, a respiratory therapist, computer programmer, graphic artist, dancers not ballet. I was semi-engaged three separate timesand called it off.
Drama, stress and expense. Women, in my experience, want to run the relationship. Of course, relationships require compromise at times, that goes without saying. Nor do we want a Stepford Wife.
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I guess I value peace of mind and peace and quiet more than a piece of anything else. Sure, it gets lonely sometimes, but all I have to do is think about how married life was, and I suddenly feel pretty damn good! What BS! I just turned 50 this week gulp. Just got busy as well as tired of it all like many of you. Now, at 50, I want to get back on the horse and try again but am fully aware that a man who has never been married and has no kids probably gives me about a.
I get it. I am extrememly fit, active, and my friends all say that I am a really good man. I have dated many wonderful women in my life that wanted to settle down with me but frankly, I was too stupid. Complimenting someone on how they look is now offensive, striking up a conversation with someone in public is unheard of, and my favorite. Wow, we have actually let all this happen to us. We should all be ashamed. I want a relationship, period. I believe a lot of people have a hard wake up call coming in their later lives!
I had to go years of being single focusing on other things to realize this. Ladies, there are a LOT of good men out there and everything they say is not wrong.
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Gentlemen, there are a LOT of great women out there who are not man haters. Am I wrong? Expectations have become impossible for anyone to live up to. An easier way is obviously just a swipe away, right!? Oh wait, its already there: If we all just and I realize how silly this is to say as I type it get back to respecting each other and appreciating what each gender has to offer, we might have a chance at NOT becoming the most disconnected culture on earth.
I leave you with this: Think of the times you felt that utter sense of pure giddiness and joy. Was it after you bought that super cool sportscar? Or maybe it was when you finally got your degree at 47? That, my frustrated friends, is how you know that anything less then love is just an excuse:. I too just turned No kids. I would love a relationship again. I went through a painful divorce 7 yrs ago I did not want after a 19 yr relationship. I then met a nice man who passed away after only two yrs together.
No responses from the men I was interested in, lies on profiles, engaged men still with active profiles, etc. Most want someone younger and who have a fat bank account. That route is not for me. Seriously Anonymous.
You are so right in that technology has made a big difference in how we communicate and meet people. While it can offer convenience, it can also be cold and impersonal. I find so little satisfaction in it.
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The world has changed and so many are self-centered and materialistic. Not many want to put the effort into a relationship, and no relationship survives without work. I want meaning and real love in my relationship.
You are absolutely right. There is nothing quite like having that chemistry with someone, knowing your partner has your back and will stand by you no matter what. I can tell you right now that I have never felt as connected and peaceful to the core of my being as when in the arms of my partner. Just being quiet together is like nothing else in the world. I am a spiritual person and I think we were given this precious gift of connection with others as a reminder of the deep connection we have with our Creator.
If only we all could see the gift we choose to squander and minimize. The world would be such a better place. Hats off to you, Anonymous. In my search for love again I hope I run into you! I am a 54 year old, reasonably attractive male who has never been married, but am currently on dating sites like eHarmony and Christian Mingle, etc.
Some brag about their professional or life accomplishments but if you ask them what qualities they have to bring to a relationship, they just point to the same accomplishments. Another thing I find is that women of all ages seem to have non-stop activity in their lives and expect the man to become part of that non-stop whirlwind of constant travel, parties, dancing, shopping, animal rescue, large pet menageries, raising horses, and whatever else they are into.
Me, I prefer less stress and so I guess you could say I am trying to slow life down instead of speed it up. I am not at all averse to dating women my age.
If you look your age, great. I am also not bothered by scars, imperfections, mastectomies, and many other things that women might be afraid to let people see. I have my own scars and medical issues and the relentless pressure to be physically perfect is hurting many of us. But yes, there are certain things I am having a hard time getting past.
Growing old together is not a problem, but starting out feeling very mismatched is. Beyond that, I have not considered divorced women in my search up to now, but after reading your post I will gladly rethink that.
I has just been a matter of fear really, of being compared to a prior significant partner. But I have considered widows, so that makes me a bit inconsistent, Lol. In any case, what I really wish for most of all right now is having someone to talk to about all this, both male and female, who have gone through the dating scene or are going through it.
I wish there were support groups for dating! Most of my friends are married or are not looking, so I do not have anyone to talk to about all this except for my therapist. It would be nice to have more people to bounce ideas off of, and have them read your profiles, etc. Not sure if anyone else feels the same.
Thanks for listening. It is nice to hear, and I appreciate your post. The points you mentioned for a meaningful relationship are points I value very much. It can be very disheartening.
I hope you do consider divorced women in the future, as most women and men our age have already been married.
Most, but not all. I would personally consider any nice, genuine, kind man to have a relationship with, with only a few exceptions. Otherwise what is the point? Because of my butt kicking on more than one front, I am pretty accepting of people and their unique differences. I am also one who is not into drama, and I prefer a simple life with some periodic adventures. I am a nature girl with one horse and two dogs, but my days of raising animals is over. He gave them to me after the divorce even though they were supposed to remain with him.
If he could throw me out of his life like trash I should have known he would throw away the dogs he wanted that I raised for him. The dogs will be with me until they leave this world because I believe in owning up to my responsibilities, but after that I am done with dogs.
At our age it is very possible to have health issues and I have a few of my own. I can understand if someone else does too. I also want minimal stress in my life, and this outlook is very necessary for my overall wellness. I am certainly not the typical woman out there obsessed with activities and shopping. I am not lazy, but I know how to relax and have peace in my life.
You can read articles and join in on forum discussions on many topics. You may find the various sites interesting and if you become a member there is a way to send me messages directly without having it posted publicly. The main site is bellaonline dot com. Maybe I will chat with you there. Well said! I relate to so much of what you wrote, being that single guy that never married. You bring up a very good pointmen our age need a place to talk about this stuff and learn from each other because, as only guys like us know, we are somewhat outcasts in society.
Hard to have large social circles at this age, seemingly impossible to meet someone in the real worldleft to the online dating environment which is flawed by its very design. Keep up the fight and the outreach.
Something tells me there are millions of men like us. But the dating system is not built for us at this age. Talking about it together is a great step forward. Men need support to. You sound like a gem and good men like me love to hear kind words. Not much of that going around anymore as everyone is crippled by their frustration and anger.
Where are all the guys like you? You are exactly what I am looking for. I feel for your situation and the lack of support. They take your money and you get no satisfaction.
I tried it and found it to be a waste. I contacted four guys through this venue and received no response from any of them. Who says you have to only date one person at a time just because you're over 50?
Not every date is going to be a great match, so feel free to cast a wide net.
There's no reason to feel guilty about going out with more than one person at a time before things get serious. Even if you've always had a particular type, don't be afraid to try something new when you're back on the dating scene over Just because you've only dated white collar professionals doesn't mean you won't have just as much fun with someone working in a trade. And when it comes to physical appearance, dating someone who doesn't look like your exes can be an exciting adventure in its own right.
You're over so why are you trying to talk like a teen? Peppering your dating profile with millennial or Gen Z catch phrases will only make you seem out of touch. Once you're in a relationship with someone, don't be shy about revealing why your past relationships didn't go the distance. While it's best not to be outright unkind about your ex, revealing that you had different priorities in terms of your family or your career can help you and your new partner determine if you can see your relationship lasting.
If you've gotten a bad vibe from your date, don't brush it off. Those gut instincts are there to protect you, so if something feels off, don't feel bad about ending things. While it may seem a bit strange at first to have someone 20 years your junior or senior ask you out, don't assume that they have ulterior motives in doing so. Just because you've never dated outside your age range before doesn't mean that every younger person who wants to be with you is after your moneynor does it mean that someone older has a problem dating people their own age.
Just because you're over 50 doesn't mean you can throw caution to the wind when it comes to your sexual health. While getting pregnant might not be as much of a concern as it was when you were younger, that doesn't mean it's not possible-and all the STIs that were around when you were dating in your teens and 20s are still around, too. So make sure you're using protection if you choose to get intimate.
Even if you haven't gotten married or had kids by 50, there's no reason to rule them out entirely. There are plenty of couples who tie the knot or have kids later in life. If those things are important to you, don't be shy about making that known when you start getting serious with someone.
That said, there's no reason to feel like your relationships have to be serious just because you're getting older. If you want to have a few casual flings or if you never see yourself getting married, that's more than fine-just be honest about these things with the people you're dating. Whether you think your former spouse is a virtual saint or a monster, it never pays to compare your current relationship to your old one.
Every relationship is different, and telling your new partner the ways they're better than your ex-or cataloging the things they don't do that your ex always did-will only make them feel like they can never measure up.
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In practice, dating after 50 can be very different than it was earlier in life. Health issuescomplicated families, and different wants and needs can make dating feel like a totally different ballgame than it was in your 20s and 30s. So try to cast those expectations aside once you put yourself out there again. Those butterflies in your stomach? That impulse to check your phone to see if they've texted? All totally normal. Just because you're older doesn't mean you shouldn't be just as excited about meeting someone great as you were in high school.
You may be excited to meet that aforementioned someone great, but don't assume that every relationship is going to be a lasting one. It can be awkward to feel like you're pushing your date into in your inner circle, so wait until you're certain you're on the same page about your relationship before having him or her meet your family and friends. Playing dumb or making light of your achievements is no way to start a relationship.
If you're proud of your career, your hobbiesor the children you've raised, don't feel obligated to say otherwise to impress your date. Anyone worth seeing again will think it's exciting to discover what you're passionate about.
Just because you're older doesn't mean you have to give up your standards when it comes to dating.
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You're still a catch, and the people you go out with should be, too. So, that person who suggested you drop a few pounds, belittled your careeror acted like they were doing you a favor by dating you can just slink back off to whatever hole they crawled out of. Even if you didn't make the first move, that doesn't mean you can't make the second one! If you had a great time with someone, go ahead and drop "So when can I see you again?
Playing games isn't cute at 20 and it's definitely not a good look at If you had a good time on your datelet them know! There's no need to stick to that ancient "three-day rule. Didn't feel a connection with your date? Don't waste your time-or theirs-by going on a second one. No matter what your age, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and there's someone out there who you will find that connection with. The most important thing to remember when you're dating over 50?